Just be interested.

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Relationships are the hardest part about being an adult, I find anyway. You can’t get your friend to tell him that you don’t want to be together anymore from across the playground and there is so much more at stake than the possible awkward moments at a shared friend’s party.

There are dreams, families, holidays, cars, houses and sometimes kids involved in this adult game and gosh darn it can be scary! By doing a little simple maths, you may have figured out that Seb is not Oli’s father. Because of this dynamic, relationships now seem so much more grown up and intimidating to me. I’m scared of things going wrong again and losing something special, not only to me but to Oli as well and he is obviously my biggest priority. 

Anyway! Moving on from the super heavy stuff that only sometimes creeps into my head, I have to share the element of my current relationship that is SO important to me and will be the driving and sustaining force for us for years to come- being interested just because. Seb and I have very different hobbies and we both like to take time to devote to them, obviously. So, in order to make things work, we both make an effort to be interested in each other’s interests. Make sense? 

By actively being interested in the other’s hobbies, it naturally creates shared experiences and memories-awesome. You never know, you may actually find a new favourite band, hang out spot or friend. Simply asking what your significant other is working on and actually listening can go a long way to making them feel interesting, loved and sometimes smart! 

Personally, I am always blown away by the passion Seb has for his hobby and it is one of my favourite things about him. If you are willing to try new things, extend yourself a little and trust that you have nothing to lose, the rewards can be awesome!

When people talk of ‘working’ on their relationship, I think this is one area that many of us could give a little more to. This is something that I consider to be vital to my little thing I have going on with a particular hottie. We are interested in each other; hobbies, opinions, bodies, fears, dreams, the lot. 

Go on, just be interested.

E.

(The photo is an example of me merging my love of photography with Seb’s love of steam engines, especially ‘Robeys’. )

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Make it pretty

Sometimes the creative urge strikes late in the evening and I inevitably have to, either rise early the next day for work or rise early the next day for Oliver.

My solution? ‘Pretty up’ something. It’s a little hit of creativity with the gratification of a finished project. This time I chose my very plain, wooden file holders and I have to say that I’m stoked with the end result!

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As I don’t like too much matchy-matchy, I went with one pattern and one solid colour. I just used the

paints I had on hand and some masking tape so the project was also free. Bonus.

I used the conveniently spaced lines on the file holders as a guide and put as many lines of masking tape as they would allow. Then I painted it. While I was waiting for the stripes to dry fully, I mixed up some pink for my solid colour choice and went ahead with number two.

I removed the masking tape once I was satisfied the paint had dried fully and voila! Don’t they just inspire organisation!?

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Currently

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I have seen a few of these ‘currently’ type posts around the blogosphere recently and love the idea. I will be doing a weekly post of this kind on Mondays. I first saw these subheadings used by Danielle of Sometimes Sweet.

Watching – I have been paying particular attention to the way Oli plays with his toys and the types of imaginary story lines he creates for his stuffed toys, wooden trains and his friends.

I have also been really trying to appreciate the natural beauty of the places that I am lucky enough to call home, work and regular hang outs. These include beautiful, bush filled backyards, rolling hills and rustic farm yards. I make myself literally stop in my place to consciously take it in and appreciate these little, simple and beautiful moments.

Listening to – I recently voted in the Hottest 100 for 2012, which is essentially an election for the best songs of each year as voted for by the listeners of Triple J, a publicly funded radio station here in Australia. Seb and I both voted and had lots of fun staying up very late, listening back through the year of songs that we have loved, talking about where we were when it came out and any memories attached to it. Seb and I share a love of music and it is a huge part of our relationship. In our first year together we have seen Blue Juice, The Cairos, Lune Lake, Kimbra (twice), Something For Kate, Gotye and travelled to Canberra to the Groovin’ The Moo festival where we were amazed by the likes of The Kaiser Chiefs, Gold Fields, Mutemath, Kimbra, San Cisco, Hilltop Hoods and 360 (that was more for me as Seb isn’t that into him).

I always have the radio or a CD playing as I don’t own a television and I love being able to dance whilst cooking or doing the dishes. The artists on repeat around here recently have been Edward Sharp and the Magnetic Zeros, Something for Kate, Jack White and Lana Del Ray. 

Planning – Our anniversary weekend in February. It’s our first one and we are going back to where we met, in rural NSW, for the weekend. We will have Oli with us and plan on enjoying good food, fun adventures during the day and at night (once the wee one is asleep) some good wine and alone time. The thought of already being at our first anniversary is crazy as it has just gone by so quickly. I get emotional when I start to think about just how much I love my man and how much better my world has been since it collided with his.

Thinking about – Lots. Always lots. I’d say I am predominantly thinking about how best to achieve the lifestyle I want and also really honing in on what that is in the first place, deciding what really matters, I guess. I had a great discussion with my brother about this topic the other day and it really made the cogs turn. We have similar ideas in this domain and get one another fired up and really excited about funny ideas and plans. 

Looking forward to – Other than the anniversary I mentioned, I am looking forward to settling into my new job and having the feeling of being useful again. I am working for a non for profit community group and am so thrilled to be able to help build on an already amazing community service.

Reading – Recipes, as always, Uni text books (reluctantly), and The Laughing Clowns by William McInnes. This is shaping up to be a great read and I will give a review once I’ve finished. I’m not usually that into fiction and sometimes find it hard to lose myself in the story but, so far, it’s well written, witty and is moving forward. Great!

Making me happy – Listening to the rain as I fall asleep and knowing that Oli, my dog and my cat are all safe, fed, warm and happy as they sleep inside on this rainy and abnormally chilly January night.

Thank for reading.

E. x

 

Darling, let’s be adventurers.

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I love this little saying . So much so, in fact, that I have decided to make it the theme for my partner and me this year. He seemed pretty keen on the idea, too, which is lucky. 

I do have plans for an overseas trip this year but what I am talking about with this ‘theme’ is on much more of a local scale. Seb (my partner) and I often don’t get to see each other through the working week and so we like to make the most of the weekends. One of our favourite things to do is grab a coffee and go for a drive, and my ‘theme’ is an extension of this and I’m hoping it will encourage us to get out of the car a little more often and find some interesting little spots close to our homes.

Being weekend adventurers also ties in nicely with my new goal toward living a more simple life and what could be better than finding local spots of interest for day trip adventures?! I’m talking hidden parks, walking tracks, abandoned stations and little historic townships that have fallen off the map. Seb and I both live in very interesting areas that we know are just waiting to be fully explored and appreciated.

Thankfully we both have a love of ‘old’ things, albeit from different eras, and an appreciating for provenance and history. I think we are in for some really interesting times!

We didn’t have long this morning so I suggested ducking down to a little creek that runs under an historic viaduct in a town local to Seb. So, coffee in hand, off we went! 

When we plan a little ahead I intend on packing either a picnic lunch or a little homemade snack to enjoy whilst exploring. Homemade food, new adventures, my love and my little boy…what could be a better combination?!

I strongly recommend doing something like this every now and then because, at the very least, it offers a different backdrop for your morning coffee and can spark some fun and interesting conversations.

 

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Simplifying

 

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I’m not exactly sure when it struck me, maybe six months ago, but I suddenly realised that I needed to simplify things, slow down and stop letting other people dictate what is valuable to me.

This has a lot to do with consumerism and how distasteful I find the whole concept. More so, I suppose is just how easily I bought (nice pun, huh?) into it. A light bulb moment occurred when I started to see Christmas decorations appear in the shopping centres in SEPTEMBER! I’d like to think it was due to their deep seeded love for the spirit of giving and love, but alas, it was to make people buy more stuff, crap, unnecessary ‘guff’. I left the complex within three minutes. I am not suggesting that this is the first time ‘They’ have done this or that it had never frustrated me before, but this time something snapped.

I thought long and hard about why I was so repulsed by the experience, why I was getting so emotional about some tinsel and “Get in early for Xmas” posters and I am still thinking about it. The current trend to buy something cheap, disposable, mass produced and “on trend” only to throw it out and replace it with exactly the same thing but in a geometric print next season, just doesn’t sit right with me. The need to always get something new, to feel that instant gratification that is so short lived is a thing of the past for me and it’s not a mentality I intend on passing on to my son. Does this mean that I am never going buy a new toy for Oliver or a new pair of shoes for myself? No. Of course not. What it does mean is that I will teach my little one the value of the toys he has and occasionally buy good quality, sturdy (often wooden) toys that will outlast him and can be passed on. It means that I will save for a pair of quality, animal and environmentally friendly shoes that will last, season after season. What happened to classic?

Now that I have articulated my objections to consumerism, I must do whatever I can do to make a difference in my pocket of the world. This is where my want, my need to simplify things happens. 

I am going to share many aspects of this new way of thinking here on The Fawn Times. I’m really excited about this new direction and I really feel like it is ‘me’, as corny as the phrase is.

My peanut butter cookies have just finished baking and my book is begging me to open it. Bliss.

E.

 

Getting in the groove.

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I’m excited to be back in the land of blogging! It has been around two years since I last kept a regular blog and have dearly missed the opportunity to write daily and have a place to purge all of my ideas, inspirations and musings on the everyday.

Whilst this space does not have a specific theme as such, my life does, and I guess that will show through. I am passionate about sustainability and animal welfare and choose to live a vegan lifestyle. I have been vegetarian for almost ten years and have recently converted to full veganism. I am loving it! This will be a big part of what I share; recipes, tips and lessons I’m learning along the way.

I am also an avid recycler and get enormous satisfaction from reusing something and getting a little bit longer out of it, saving it from landfill for just a touch longer. The same can be said about clothes in that I adore vintage and up-cycled pieces that have a story to tell.

There are many other aspects of my life that I will be sharing, including being a Mum, an interest in health and wellbeing as well as the need to create simple, pretty things regularly.

I am so thrilled to have a little space on the web again.

E.